When thinking about the grandiose and often scary things we want in this world: it’s so easy to default to the WORST case scenario mindset.
What if… it rains on my outdoor wedding day?
What if… no one shows up to my party?
What if… the man I love leaves me?
What if… I write the book and no one reads it?
What if… I sign up for the event and I fail?
You get my drift.
It’s so easy to let our minds spiral into a vortex of self pity, anxiety, overwhelm, what-ifs and what-it-never’s: but it‘s not getting us anywhere.
Putting ourselves in a mode of struggle by mind-trapping thoughts of disbelief will never move us closer to our desired outcome.
Life changes drastically when you give yourself permission to plan for the outcome you want.
What if… I fall in love and have a happy marriage forever?
What if… I have the most genuine and true friendships?
What if… I publish a novel and people love it?
What if… I sign up for the event and have the greatest time?
What if… I try and succeed?
What if… everything I want is on the other side of this fear?
It’s OK to own what you want. It’s healthy for our growth to own what we want. It’s imperative for our mental health to own what we want.
What if the BEST thing that could happen, happened?: why can’t we start asking ourselves THIS question?
If it doesn’t work out: you can deal with that later- but why spend all the time stressing and waiting for something bad to happen? What unnecessary baggage to hold.
Remember, “You will find what you are looking for”.
So, start looking for what you truly want: and stop trying to prepare yourself for anything other than the best outcome.